Most of us are well aware by now that the traditional way of finding a date or a partner is long gone, as many of us are now finding love through dating sites and apps.
This is especially true over the last decade where now virtually everyone has regular access to the internet through their cell phones, which is reflected in the increased number of people who are finding dates through these apps.
While these dating sites and apps definitely have broadened horizons, more options doesn’t necessarily make things easier. To help you have the most success in this new territory, we have complied some of the top dating tips from people who have been successful in finding a partner online.
Modify Your Approach
Not only are many “dating” sites geared towards one night stands, many users aren’t looking for much more than that either. Before investing your time and energy in doing so, make sure the person you’re interested in is on the same page.
For example if you are someone looking for a long term partner, then you should try to eliminate drinking too much alcohol, or any at all. You aren’t going to get to know the person well in that setting, and are better off going out to grab a coffee so you both are clear headed.
Talking to someone online on a dating app is completely different in person. Not only can a person modify their appearance online, but they have a longer time to respond and you can’t read their body language either. You will definitely get a better read on a person in this type of setting as opposed to your usual bar or club.
Be More Open
Like with anything else, the more picky you are in your partners, the more you are limiting your options. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to compromise on what you are looking for in your partner, but you should be open to investing more time in doing so.
One really effective and rather simple way to do so is just to broaden your search area, and be open to dating people who live a little bit further away than you are comfortable with. Depending on the area in which you live, this can greatly improve the people you could potentially date.
Don’t Be Too Dismissive
As mentioned prior, sometimes too many options can be a bad thing. It is really easy to bypass someone even on a minor flaw that we don’t like because we know there are many other options out there.
The problem with this mentality is that we’re having problems dating already, so maybe we should be more willing to give someone else a chance.
The next time you are using a dating app, don’t just take a look at the person’s profile picture but take a look at their bio as well. Even if the person is the most attractive person in the world, if your personalities and interests clash then things are never going to go anywhere anyway.
Give Second Chances
First impressions can mean everything, however you should try to be understanding of the situation as well. Some people are extremely nervous and shy on a first date, and may not be able to show you their whole true personality from just one meeting.
There are countless examples of people who have met their significant others because they gave them a second chance, so don’t let a minor faux pas impede you from finding a good partner.
Give it Time!
You need to give the relationship some time to grow, especially at the start. Many people tend to get anxiety over a match not responding immediately, and think that is has to do with them losing interest.
More often the case is that the person has other things going on in their lives, and isn’t just ready to devote a lot of their time to someone new. You need to know and understand this going in, otherwise you can easily push someone away.
Avoid Small Talk
Let’s face it, if you are dating on an app, finding a partner in a timely fashion it at least somewhat high on your priority list. You need to remember that the person you are dating is in the same boat, and stick to the things that matter.
Every line has been used at one point or another on these apps, and to say that people are tired by it is an understatement. Be yourself, and get to know the other party better.